We are now in the month of June and traditionally most marriages take place in this month, especially if you live in Europe, America, Canada and Russia, one of the main reasons being that the weather is a lot warmer. Lot of brides want to be June brides. Due to the new covenant, that we have with Jesus the anointed one of God, marriage is available to everyone, if they want to be married. Marriage is not to make to couple whole or complete, or finish each other. Marriage must be sane, level-headed and sensible people.
Before you get married, you must know why you want to get married and do you really want to be married in the first place. Marriage takes a lot of time and lot of work and energy however this work should be enjoyable. Marriage needs passion, romance to keep it exciting. You still need to go out on dates and your marriage bedroom, should be for you and your husband, not your children, or your mother, you best mates to see it, your marriage bed should be for you, your husband or wife and God. Your marriage bedroom is sacred. You should not have a television in your marriage bedroom. Maybe your laptop, if you need to work, and only a radio, nothing else, because you have to concentrate on each other, physically, mentally and spiritually and it is for you to make love to your spouse.
Passion never dies, you should be still be passionate for each other, I would say even more, men who have passion for computers and trains or women for shoes, and makeup, even when they reach eighty years old, never lose their passion, but we expect people to lose their passion for each other, because they age.
A lot of people call for a relationship and when one person shows enthusiasm and wants to spend more time with them, seeing them three or four times, suddenly the other person thinks they need to breathe. Then you need to ask yourself, do you want a relationship which will lead to marriage, or do you want a boyfriend or girlfriend for sex.
When you decide that you want to get married, you need to pray and ask for guidance, have a heart to heart conversation with God, not your pastor, he can't help you, but with God himself, you have to talk to God, you have to go to the throne room and talk to God, you make a list of the characteristics, which are important to you, and pray them in your spouse, by thanking God that my husband is a gentle and kind man, pray characteristics for yourself, 'Thank you God for making me such a loving wife, because too many times, we want this and that in our life partners and what about us.
There are comments that people say that people show not make lists, this is an absolute lie, and complete and utter rubbish, when you go shopping, you have a shopping list in your head, when you go to buy a house, you have the idea of what kind of house, you want. There are features that are most important to you, when you buy a car the same thing. When we travel on plane or train, you travel bound for the destination, it is no good going on a plane bound for South Africa and you want to go to Europe. The plane is going to its specific destination and if children are important to you, be with a man, who wants children, don't be with someone, who doesn't want children and then hope that you will change their mind. Same way with a believer, if he is a non-believer, don't think you can save him, pray for him yes and God will look into his heart, you concentrate on being with someone who is a believer.
Do you have a vision for your life, can you actually see yourself married with children.
Also attend churches where the men and women of God are specified anointed to preach and teach the word of God and ask God to put you in the right church. This is extremely important.
God does not change his method of doing things, he may adapt to the modern world, he may talk to you through the computer, and why shouldn't he, he designed them. He anoints the men and women of God and the anointing goes from the head to the congregation. There are many people, who are in the wrong church, some may be full, because 'pastor preach good', but are they teaching the word of God and how are you using it in your life. Have you seen significant changes since you have been going to the church or Christian centre. If you have not, you need to leave the church fast.
In Malachi 3:10 Bring ye all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be meat in mine house, and prove me now herewith, saith the Lord of hosts, if I will not open the windows of heaven, and pour you out a blessing, that there shall be room enough to receive it.
A tithe is the first ten percent of your income. Your tithe looks after the church, the building, the media resources etc, so that you can be an effective ambassador for Christ. When you tithe you are acknowledging El Shaddai - God Almighty as your source of all, he can provide for you, when you tithe, you open yourself to Divine Favour and blessings of all kinds. When you tithe, on your envelope, you should put what you want in your life and get scriptures for it, as you want to be married, you put on the envelope for my successful marriage and let the Holy Ghost teach you how to be a wife, or a husband, some of us learn our bad marriages from our parents, the Holy Ghost is the right person for the job, and he can teach you.
Reading Proverbs 31, Ruth, Esther, Deborah and Judith. Judith, you will find in the Jerusalem Bible. Read Peter, Joseph, he was an excellent husband, Daniel, although he did not get married, he was very wise. Proverbs 3:5, read the chapters concerning Jesus, how he was caring and very wise, look particularly how he treated women, especially prostitutes, in his ministry, he had a lot of ladies, who were members of his congregation.
Those pastors, who say that you must sit and wait on God, that he will send you a wife or a husband. No God does do that, you have to get yourself out there to meet your husband or wife. Ruth had to travel to meet Boaz, Esther had to take part in the beauty competition. After your wife and husband training, you make yourself attractive, lose weight if you need to, you have to be a delight to your husbands or wives eyes. You have to let your husband and wife to be see you in their dreams, you see him, you pray for them, where ever they are and when the time is right, God will bring them to you.
Genesis 2:24, Psalm 128:3, Proverbs 18:22, Proverbs 31:11-12, Song of Solomon (showing how marriage, should be), 1 Corinthians 7:14, Ephesians 5:25, 28, 31. God does not care where your husband comes from as long as you are equally yoked.
Other inspiring women of God, where Abigail, she was wise, of good understanding as the bible refers to her 1 Samuel 25:2-43, The Shunamite woman 2 Kings 8 -37.