Thursday, 26 June 2008

Who are the angry black women and where do they live?

Do these ladies look angry to you? Okay, you can argue, I picked pictures of smiling politicians and one supermodel. This was prompted by another blogger Hopelessly Sarcastic, Allow me to introduce my angry black female self. One of the reporters, mentioned that Maxine Waters is angry, Cynthia McKinney is angry, Michelle Obama is angry and the black anchor women, who are on the television are always angry and black women in general are angry. Wow! now that is a sweeping statement. It seems to be the norm to accept that all black women are angry. Angry according to the Oxford Dictionary definition of the word, means the strong feeling caused by extreme displeasure. The emotion anger is neither positive or negative, it is a neutral emotion, meaning it can be used to bring positive or negative results. All the women shown here are well spoken, articulate and they can express themselves clearly. Women tend to have more communicative than men. There is a problem of having black women who can express themselves well, certain sections of the media like to say that they are 'angry'. Angry is an emotion that is felt by everybody. If we look in the bible, everyone got angry, Cain was angry with Abel, Noah got angry at Ham, Abraham and Lot quarrelled, Sarah got angry at Hagar, Esau got angry with Jacob. Jacob got angry with Laban, Rachel and Leah were angry at each other. Joseph's brothers were angry with him. Moses was angry with people of Israel. God was angry with them that is why they wondered for 40 years and only Caleb and Joshua were able to get into the promised land. There were other incidents, when God got angry, David got angry, Jesus got angry with the money changers in the temple. Women get angry, men get angry, children get angry and even babies get angry. Every woman and man of every race is entitled to get angry. However when black women get angry, we are know as 'the angry black woman', or there is a sweeping statements, black women are always angry. Black women are mothers, daughters, sisters, aunts, grandmothers, cousins. So does that mean, every day every black woman wakes up, angry, she goes to bed angry and she is angry in the times between sun raise and sunset. Even some black men are saying 'black women have too much attitude, they talk too much, they are too strong willed, and yada, yada, ya!. So what is the reality of the 'angry black woman'. When I got divorced, I was upset, but I did get angry, when ex-husband accused me of harassing him, which I did not, because I left his home and went to my parents house and I did get angry when my barrister accused me of a being a bitter black woman. My daughter who is 20 years and she is going to university in September, I asked her, if I was an angry black woman, she said that I'm always laughing and her father is always angry. I also noticed when I was growing up, my father was always angry, he was always quarrelling with someone and even at now at 82, he is still angry and he shouts and screams. The black men who scream abuse at black women from various 'organizations' the so-called God messengers, they are angry, others rant about black women on you tube from them wearing weaves to them interracially dating and marrying non-black men. They are angry, the lyrics of some hip hop artists, singing about their bitches and hoes, sounds very angry to me, however someone told me, I must not take it like that, it is a form of endearment, according to the Oxford dictionary, endearment is a word or words expressing love. So these black gentlemen are expressing words of love to their lady friends, by calling them bitches and hoes. I learn something new everyday. Some of the black male blogs, I visited, had a lot of men were very angry with Barack Obama's Father's Day speech, there was a young black men on Fox News, complaining that Barack Obama was speaking to the wrong people, and he was extremely furious about it, a lot of men were annoyed especially when he mentioned that many men have low expectations of themselves, saying like, 'at least I got a job, at least I'm not in jail or at least I don't chase after women, drink or smoke'. 'How dare he', as one man said, he made the speech to look down at black people to say that he is better than them and why did he have to go in such a large church, there were plenty of smaller churches he could have spoken in.
The Punk Rock music was another angry music genre, which was anti-establishment rock music, the music was loud, their members could not really play and as for singing. Well I have to say, their members liked that type of music, with names like Johnny Rotten and Sid Vicious members of the Sex Pistols, it is not to fill you with feelings of love and warmth, just aggression and angry. We never hear about angry white men or angry white boys or angry black men or angry black boys, but everyone knows about angry black women. 'I like black women...but they just bit hard to handle...I mean they are always angry'. I have been told, 'I'm a nice black woman...but the rest...they're just....they bit your ears off'. I would be very curious to know who put the rumour about all black women being ' angry black women'.
Naomi Campbell has been know for her incidents of violence. In August 1998, she was the first black model on the cover of Vogue Paris, the first black model on the cover of Vogue UK, Vogue Nippon and Time magazine. Sam McKnight, the famous hairdresser, say that Naomi was a pleasure to work with. Jeff Banks, a British designer said that the media don't seem to realise that Naomi Campbell is the only model who does British Fashion week for free. On 3rd April 2008, she was arrested inside Heathrow's Terminal 5 on suspicion of assaulting a police officer, because her baggage had been lost, she had that her reaction was to the fact that one of the BA staff called her a Golliwog supermodel, she said that it was not any of the passengers. She has apologised to the police. BA has banned her from using their flights globally and she has refused to apologise to BA, she had been sentenced to do 200 hours of community service. She and the media have a very troubled relationship and it started the moment, she became very successful model, being the first British and black woman, a reporter wanted to know where did Naomi's mother get the money to buy her house in Streatham, South West London and go to private school etc. The reporter also alleged that she was threatened by the orders of Robert De Niro. Since 1997, she had been involved in charity work for children and people of Sub-Saharan Africa and she worked with Nelson Mandela, she raised millions of dollars for Hurricane Karina.
Diane Abbot MP (member of Parliament) also has the tag of 'angry black woman'. The first black woman to be elected in the general election of 1987, it was not until 1997 that the Black and Jewish MP Oona King joined her.
Nyamo Sabuni is a Swedish politician, and currently serving as the Minister for Integration and Gender Equality in Swedish government.
Maxine Waters, she has also been referred to 'an angry black woman' served as a democratic member of the United States House of Representatives since 1991.
Michelle Obama, also referred as 'an angry black woman', she will be the first black woman to be first lady in the White House, Princeton and Harvard educated.
Cynthia McKinney also has the reference 'angry black woman' is an American politician and Green party candidate.
Patrica Janet Scotland, Baroness Scotland of Asthal. PC , QC, Privy Counsel and Queen Counsel respectively. She is a barrister and current attorney general for England and Wales, she has a ministerial position in the British Government. She was the first black woman to be made Queen's Counsel.
So now the truth about 'the angry black woman' and where do they live. You will find angry black women, with nasty attitudes, anywhere and everywhere, and they live all over the world, but you will find women of all races with nasty attitudes and they too live all over the world. You will get 'angry black women', but not all black women are angry. The majority of black women are smart, intelligent, sweet, very feminine, softly spoken, they laugh out loud, they go to church and they love God and Jesus. Black women get married, they have children and they have husbands who love them. They are stylish, they love to shop, they love supermarkets, shopping malls, they love fashion, make-up and shoes. So they are like lots of other women, the only thing they are black, they are from African descent. The media corporations want to feature one type of woman, the loud, aggressive, uneducated ladies, but ladies who are intelligent, well spoken, articulate and can express their point effectively and clearly are regarded as 'the angry black woman'. Black women are entitled to say what they feel in a dignified manner, because black women have experienced racism prejudice and we have to work twice or three times as hard to prove ourselves. If other people don't like it, too bad. When I used to do temping jobs, or any other jobs, I always had to prove myself, they would assume that I would fail and when I didn't, they would ask, why am I so nice, kind, soft and I would say nice things. I would say that my parents trained me that way, because of this box system, some media corporations and even black people themselves, feel that black women who are educated, speak nicely, articulate, confident, successful and are beautiful are 'acting white'. This goes to show the level of ignorance some people have, without education, there would not be any fashion designers, hair dressers, inventors, lawyers, engineers, architects, landscape gardeners, doctors, lawyers, preachers, rabbis, business owners, writers, scientists. These women, these black women made our world and more interesting and fascinating place. Black women have opened their eyes and they realise that the world is an abundance place and as the daughters of the most High God,
El El yon, they are entitled to the richness of the land, regardless of what anyone says, it is theirs, it is mine, it is yours, for the taking. We just have to ask, receive and believe, because if we can think it, we can create it, with God on our side. We are already winners.

Tuesday, 10 June 2008

The attack of the Black women and how do we fight back

I have noticed that Black women are being attacked, and the attacks are constant, vicious and abusive. I don't really know what we done to deserve this. We are attacked, because if we are educated and speak and act polished. We are told that we are not black enough, we are attacked because we are marrying men from different races. We are called sellouts and traitors. We are attacked because instead of concentrating on what white women do and focusing to them, because there are hardly any black woman on main stream magazine covers, very few are in the film industry, instead we have magazines and blogs to address our needs. We are setting up our own film industry. We put our money, in our own projects. We are being accused of white women protectionism and we forget what Rosa Parks and Martin Luther King did for us, so that we can enjoy the freedom, we have now. We have less privilege than white women and why are we protecting them and that is why few white men approach us, because they don't consider us sexy.
Usher is married and has a lovely wife Tameka, she is being attacked, because she is not pretty enough for him, and she is too dark. We are being attacked for all the ills of the black community. We are being attacked because we are loud mouth, ghetto and fat and that is why black men don't want us. We are attacked because some hip hop songs call us hos and bitches. We are attacked because we are not quite is considered beautiful. Black models find it harder to get work. It seems to be, it is in a lot of peoples interest, to have the pity party for the black woman. 'Poor black women', their men don't want them, other men from other groups don't want them. People are looking for the 'angry black woman'. Her life is full of hardship and toil.
Let us look at the reality of things, even though 70% of black women are single, there is 60% of black men who is single also. Black women are twice as likely to be educated up to degree level and beyond than white women. In the blog world, I have meet many black women, who are married to non-black men, so saying that non-black men don't find black women attractive, is a big lie. Also black men who are married to black women and raising wonderful children. Black women are most likely to have start their own businesses. The majority of black women are taking the lives in their hands and living it to the full. They are breaking out of their mental chains and in order to have change, they must make changes themselves. They have the anointing of David, Daniel, Debra, Abigail, Solomon and Moses. They have been made for a time like this. Inspirational women of our time are Bessie Coleman, Michelle Obama, Oprah Winfrey, Diane Abbott MP (Memberof Parliament, UK), Baroness of Scotland, member of the UK cabinet. Nyamko Sabuni, Government minister for Integration and Gender Equality Swedish MP, Shaznay Lewis, lead singer and song writer of the group 'All Saints'. Estelle felt that her record company was not promoting her properly, she met Kanye West and asked him to get in touch with John Legend and the rest is history, American Boy was a big hit in UK and USA. Jill Scott, Malorie Blackman, Leslie Esdaile-Banks, Sandra Kitt, Lisa Price owner of Carol's daughter, Anita Grant, she had her own on-line beauty business and my list would go on and on. Cupcake Brown, came from a terrible background of sexual abuse and prostitution from a very young age, she was a gang member and an alcoholic, she became a successful lawyer and now she is a motivational speaker and engaged to be married. The reason for these attacks, is because black women realise their self worth, they realise that they are beautiful women, they have started to celebrate their beauty. They can anything, they want to be, whatever they set their minds to. The sky's the limit. So they are getting on with their lives, their husbands, children and their passions and they are happy. They will always be the angry ones, the bitter ones, but the majority are a success. That is why it is so scary to some angry black men, some angry black women, some angry white women and some angry white men. The best revenge on your enemies is success and your enemies will talk about you day and night, because they can't sleep at night, and you can, because as Proverbs 10:22 states you have the blessing of the Lord, it maketh rich and he addeth no sorrow with it.